Through surviving experiences of homelessness, divorce, single parenthood, multiple careers, crippling weight and debt issues and healing family trauma, I knew I was born to become a coach and help others. As I have delved deeper into therapeutic change work I have realised that it is not what happens to us that matters, its how we feel and think about ourselves and the challenges we face, that makes the real difference to our quality of life and future success.
The key method that I use, is based on no content therapy which means you do not have share the details of any difficult memories to find the experience beneficial. Life coaching pulls you forward into a better future with awareness, mindfulness and focus.
You story will be unique to you, but no matter what is happening, it is possible to leave the past behind and enjoy your life again.
Since I was a child, I never liked myself very much. I constantly judged myself “as not good enough”. Inner conflict ruled my life. I realise now that this stemmed from a feeling of not belonging in my family, as I never really felt loved, wanted or understood. These feelings had a massive impact on the choices that I made throughout my life. Trying so hard to prove myself. To please everyone in my life to acheive a sense of self worth. But never really being satisfied with anything I acheived. By the age of 45, I was stressed out, finding it hard to trust people and relax. I didnt know how to ask for help or accept love as I did not love or trust myself. I had lived for too long in survival mode and knew there must be more to life.
I found harmony and a renewed zest for life when I started my journey of self appreciation. I had a lot of experiences and poor choices to heal from and let go. A lot to accept and much to forgive myself for. It was challenging, heart-breaking and astonishing and it was the best thing I ever did. I now feel so much joy as I am able to give that gift of inner peace to others and helping them to find their flourish as they heal from their past and look towards a brighter future.
“Forgiveness is not about forgetting. Forgiveness is about remembering without the pain”
From a young age, I was taught to ignore my emotions, but we now know this is not a healthy way to live. Emerging neuroscience tells us that we create our own emotions and they drive our energy, our habits and every decision that we make. They heavily influence both our physical and mental health whether we acknowledge them or not.
When we can identify, appreciate and change the way we respond to our emotions, we find a peace and certainty within. This is when our lives truly transform. We feel calm and in control; with nothing to hide, nothing to fear and nothing to prove. We can find happiness and success on our own terms, look after our bodies and minds, finding our own unique ways to flourish.
Now in my mid 50’s, I share my home with my wonderful husband and soul mate of 16 years, and 2 very fluffy cats. We live a simple, happy life in my home county of Dorset, as we build our dreams and create our future together.
Wherever our life paths may cross, I wish you a wonderful day and a flourishing future. It is there for the taking when you are ready.