The origin of this well known saying is misty, but the metaphor is clear. It expresses the idea that the eyes of a person give you an insight into their inner world – their feelings and thoughts. This rings true for me, as I have been studying and practicing an emerging therapeutic model called IEMT.
Integral Eye Movement Therapy is an evolving model birthed by Andrew T Austin from the realms of EMDR and NLP.
It helps by exploring problems through negative memories and emotional imprints, which have occurred throughout our lives and have made us who we are today. Through our experiences, we have learned how to feel bad about certain things and we have learned how to act in a certain way.
IEMT is a technique that can get to the root of long-standing problems such as low self esteem, or anxiety. It is not embarrassing to the client as little detail about the memories or events needs to be known. It helps by releasing the client from deep set emotional imprints and behaviour patterns that have had a negative impact on their lives. Changes are then easier for the client to make.
In July 2020, I became a licensed practitioner of IEMT and I am now pleased to offer this therapeutic technique to my clients…as I know it will release many more women from their limiting fears and beliefs even faster.
How do I know it works?
I do not offer my clients anything I do not experience for myself. Back in March, I was experiencing flashbacks of events at work that had deeply upset me. Through IEMT, I was able to see why this had affected me so badly and how I had learnt to react the way that I did. This event had left me with residue feelings of shame, guilt, and regret. Whenever the flashbacks occurred, I felt all these feelings all over again. It became difficult to move on as I was reliving this trauma time and time again in my head.
You see the way we store memories when we have a traumatic experience is very different. Have you ever noticed that phenomena – when time slows down as something bad happens? Everything seems to go into slow motion, and we remember the minutest of detail…this is because our amygdala (responsible for the stress response) triggers fear when bad things happen. Our brains are designed to remember everything negative so that it can keep us safe from it in the future. So, when a negative memory is stored, it is stored attached to the fear and that doesn’t go away.
We learn to be frightened of things from a very young age. It is a natural and healthy mechanism which helps us to keep safe from harm.
IEMT explores how you learnt to feel that way, and finds imprints which usually start with something very small. Like being shouted at by your parents or being shamed or made to feel guilty.
The eye movements then recalibrate that emotional imprint, so it desensitises the memory and files it away similar to the way we store a pleasant memory…with no fear attached. You can still recall it but it no longer causes you to feel distressed.
If I recall the memory now of my work event. It is just a memory of something that happened, and I feel ok about it. It no longer stops me from doing the things that I want to do.
So, whats next?
I want to explore the use of IEMT to help people to solve their problems. It can help with any issues you are having, like moving on from trauma, undertsanding where your anxiety comes from, breaking pattern of procrastination and perfectionism and generally feeling bad about yourself.
Me? I’m back to my healthy lifestyle habits which I struggled with through and after this period and I know that when something happens again, I can use IEMT to help.
So let me help you to step into your flourishing future too!
Sarah Jane Woods
Life Coach for Women
Sarah Jane is an IEMT and NLP practitioner who believes that when we nourish our energy, our lives transform as we flourish.
We live with less fear, worry, doubt and anxiety and find the confidence to be ourselves every day.
We invest more time in the things that are important; to love more wholeheartedly, to be grateful for what we have and to make a true difference to the lives of others.